This is what 35 years in the mental health field, and a wild personal growth journey, taught me…

We already have our answers somewhere inside us. And we have a wide variety of ways we block the truth from ourselves.

This shows up in the patterns we keep repeating. Our Self Talk-the way we speak to ourselves all day long. Beliefs we've been carrying since childhood that narrow our thinking and lead us to make under-informed, limited decisions. All of this is always in the background, in our unique worldview, unconsciously shaping a life we didn't consciously choose, and often can’t get free from.

I call that the small Self.

It's the version of us that got built by our early environment, our family, our culture, the things that happened to us over our lifetime. It's not who we actually are. It's who we became without realizing it.

I teach awareness of that small self — to really see and understand it — so you can start living from something bigger. A Self that's conscious, present, and aware. One that has self-compassion for the human being you are and real agency over how you show up. That's something we can grow into, simply by practicing increasing self-awareness.

The Short Version

I'm a licensed psychotherapist and certified life coach. I've spent 35 years in mental health and addiction clinics, in private practice, and in the complicated and unique lives of people who knew there was more to be, do, and have in their lives, and wanted to create that for themselves.

And here’s a random detour-I’m a former motorcycle racer. 11 years of that hard, dangerous, and exhilarating extreme sport experientially gave me the key to how we create our life, our day-to-day experience. Something I never learned in school. In racing, you go where you look. Period. Stare at the edge of the track, and you end up on the edge of the track. Focus on the ground, and you end up on it. Fast. But when you force yourself to look through the turn as far ahead as possible, everything slows down, and you not only make the turn smoothly but also at a much greater speed.

That's physics. And it's exactly how our mind and our attention work. Where we direct our attention, what we focus on, is what we get. It dictates how we feel, what we think, what we do, and the outcomes we get. Most people are focused on the wall, the barrier, the limit, wondering why they keep running right into it. But when we understand how powerful our attention is, we regain our self-agency.

The Work

We have 10’s of thousands of thoughts per day…how many of those are you consciously aware of? You’ll come to know what that voice in your head is saying, exactly how it's directing you 24 hours a day, where it came from, and how to make it work for you, instead of against you.

You’ll become savvy to your repeating patterns, your fear and anxiety triggers, your emotional hot buttons, and your avoidance behaviors and habits. You’ll learn to notice them early, to pause, then choose something different-a perspective and action that creates an outcome in the direction of who you want to be, instead of a new problem to clean up later.

Finally, you’ll find and develop the personal practices that uniquely help YOU stay balanced, clear, and interested in what's possible. You’ll come to know that real change is possible. It's much more accessible than you think.

If you're ready to take yourself on, let’s go.